See if there are any green flags described below in your relationship.
Any problem can be discussed openly and a mediated solution can be reached.
The biggest obstacle in many relationships is the lack of open communication. You can’t tell or make the other person understand what one person feels, can’t listen. Break into the body and jump. Only one is right and the other is wrong. Or there is no time to talk. Don’t even make time. Otherwise, silent treatments are given. That means not talking. Because of this, many relationships hide many things from each other. Suspects and does not say that they are scolded, but they suffer alone.
But you should be able to talk about a problem in the relationship. You should be able to express your feelings. There should be someone who listens attentively, and someone who speaks their mind without lying. These roles should be exchanged with each other.
So, no matter what kind of problems come from outside, if both of you can resolve them between yourselves, both of you will talk and solve the problems you have with honesty and trust in the other, it is a green flag in your relationship.
Respecting the other’s personal space and privacy.
There is an opinion in our society that a relationship is a possession. Like two are one. Because of this, there is no room for individual freedom. No privacy at all. They have to stay with themselves from the time they come home from work, they can’t have friends and relatives, in short, some people can’t connect with their home, they can’t use the phone again after making a call, they don’t have a personal life of their own. There are many such incidents in the society.
There is no such thing as two becoming one. A relationship is when two people live together as best they can. They cannot lose themselves in that. You should have some freedom and time for yourself. There should be room for personal boundaries. If you can accept what you like and reject what you don’t like in the relationship, it is a green flag. But really, this is built on each other’s trust. This is like give and take, not an excuse for one party to lie to another.
Respect each other.
“What do you know? You’re wrong.”
“I don’t care what you say, I do what I want.”
That’s all they say as if you two don’t respect each other. But in a relationship, the opinions of the other and the existence of the other have validity. If others are put down, embarrassed in front of people, body shamed, or compared, those are not very good traits.
If you think before making some decisions, “I want to get his opinion on this too”, it means that you respect them too. This does not mean “I can’t do anything without asking him/her”, “doing control”, a dependency mentality or loss of independence.
Helping each other grow.
If you have to stifle your abilities and talents by saying, “he/she doesn’t like it, please,” and if you limit your partner’s progress because they feel insecure, it means that you are blocking the development of your own life. If they motivate you to fix your shortcomings, identify your strengths and polish them more, and support you in achieving your goals, then those are green flags in your relationship.
Having similarities in core values.
This means similarities in ideas about the basic values of life. That means things like what is expected from family life, parenting, what feels like happiness, and how to see progress. Matching ideas means things like this. Conflicts can be reduced if you have similarities in these core values than those who try to reconcile them by sitting on two extremely incompatible ends. It’s a green flag.
A relationship is solid and comfortable not based on how long you’ve been together; it’s according to the green flags in your relationship. Green flags are created based on mutual understanding, compassion, intelligence and maturity.
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